Holidays are getting very boring now... I must find some meaningful thing to do before the holidays breeze past.
One of my friends wrote a note about the relationship between him and me, and I appreciate the effort a lot. Brings back a lot of memories of lower sec. days... of childish, immature and rather rash days of the past.... Back then, no one really hides anything (not in the literal sense, of course) from each other, the emotions and feelings shown are genuinely true. But those days are in the past, and can only be remembered... Maturity brings masks of deception? Oh well, that will be elaborated in another post, not this. Have to finish this first. :P
Anyway the link to the note that my friend has written is: http://www.facebook.com/notes/eugene-walcott/reminiscence-of-fateful-friends-part-02-yong-quan/207713761123 Feel free to look through, and comment there or in the tagboard here. Your comments will be appreciated. :) (Got to publicise the blog soon, I just wonder if Facebook is an appropriate platform.)
Back to the main point: the ways that people think to make decisions for themselves and others. In the absence of authority to order them around (Appeal via authority: Ethos), I found out that people manage themselves and others by 3 main ways.
1) Logic (Appeal via logic: Logos)
Point, Evidence, Elaboration. That's all. Go by the book. Their brain programmes like the computer C++ programme, via "if" statements. They consider all the possibilities, and choose what they think is best for the situation. Every claim and decision has to be rectifies, supported. They do not do things without grounds, or just by mere speculation. This kind of people can be described as robots, no feelings hinder decision making, everything flows in an orderly manner. These people usually plan way ahead before they act, via the scenario that presents itself. They do things extremely efficiently, but generally have little friends and their social life is rather bland. The brain is the dominant decision factor.
2) Emotion (Appeal via emotion: Pathos)
Emo? Nah, emoing is for the extreme. Their feelings are publicly displayed on their faces. Relationships are vital to them. Loneliness equals sending them to hell. They like mingling around and making friends, keeping in touch via various communication devices. Generally very sociable and click with anyone easily. One will not feel uncomfortable around them, even in silence. Emits a "soothing" aura which lets people drop their natural guard quickly. Very open to critiques, but extremely sensitive to them as well. Spouting anything without going through your brain is going to bring you disaster with these people. Ultimately, they are willing to bend rules and the norm for relationships, especially close ones. The heart is the dominant decision factor.
3) Instinctive (Instantaneous)
Generally, people are a mix of both types mentioned above. And if those two contradict each other (very often indeed), they will sink into a dilemma and well mental torture. They will decide for an uber long time, and by the time the decision has to be made (which will be reached very frequently indeed in this kind of fix), they go by instinctive thinking for the instantaneous moment. And hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Sounds like leaving everything to fate, but well it is. Whatever pops up into their brain at the period of decision making, they will just do it. One cannot say the decision is utterly random, during the period of dilemma, all the possibilities will have been considered and the extreme unacceptable ones (to them, may not be to others) will have already been rejected, leaving the "acceptable" options, but each having very high opportunity costs of each other (i.e. you choose a, b has to be sacrificed; you choose b, a has to be sacrificed, no compromise can be made), thereby stumping the decision-makers. Hence, the option is chosen randomly from only this group. Another option is not doing anything at all. Saves the pain. But rather irresponsible.
Your views, anyone? All are welcome, except for unknown crappers.
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