Alright, I know what I need to do. I know how to do it. I wasted 1/2 of today. It's time to reduce the wastage of, well, time, itself.
I realised today as well that I really need a guiding light to 1) constantly remind me of my visions and goals, and to 2) push myself to practice my life philosophy. I can do it on my own, by myself, of course, self control and consciousness etc. But it's not as efficient or as effective as what I think my maximum potential can reach.
And so begins the search for an external source which can help me achieve the above 2 targets.
Saturday, September 13
Wednesday, January 1
2014
Well, I guess I'm going to be 21 this year, an important "checkpoint" age, the age which humans cross the boundary of the categories of children and adults. I do not have many feelings towards its approaching, except maybe not really looking forward to the greater amount of responsibilities that comes with adulthood.
Looking back at 2013, it's been a decent year for me, with no major events, excluding perhaps reaching my ORD. The increase in the number of facebook friends is probably the smallest since the year I started my account. I have also done more clean-up on my list of friends, the last which I will act upon for what I foresee as many years to come. I officially got over the stage of mass adding people I meet (when meet = add). And nope, this does not mean I think I have an adequate social circle. Heck, I don't even know what's the diameter of my ideal social circle. Going by intuition will do for that, I just hope I don't become paranoid or the like. I still feel lonely sometimes at home (from my lack of siblings), but I am proud to say I can manage myself when I'm alone. I said before I wanted to go out with friends and acquaintances more often. It's not really possible for me, as I found out this year. Due to my introvert personality coupled with my dry skin, I am not comfortable with going out as frequent as I would have liked. Oh well, I've come to terms with it.
2014 will be the year when I go back to school. Yay! Will encounter the opposite gender of my age range rather often again after 2 years of national service. Hopefully interaction with the girls won't be difficult for me... And I will adopt a modified strategy of attempting to make new friends: be active in expressing interest but not force it too hard. After all, I have learnt that people may not want to due to their various reasons. I still like to widen my circle (ok maybe not as others fade out unknowingly), there's a lot of good people out there which I have yet to meet. =)
Monday, May 20
._.
Been void of emotions for quite some time, just living life as it is. It's becoming a little boring. Alright, I admit, it's downright boring. Shall share one interesting point which I found online.
1) The things that we do often in the past when we're younger have not become lamer with time. They're still the same now and will be so even in the future. What's changed and is changing is ourselves, our own mindsets.
Explains a lot.
Sunday, March 17
20 years + 1 day
Update in what I've been doing:
Writing this post with a groggy mind. Have been trying to pen this post the past few days, but put it off due to "exhaustion". Cause is playing too much DotA2 I guess, my new entertainment source, it lagging in almost every game notwithstanding. Shall replace my laptop at the end of this year, I think. Wanted it to be a connection platform with friends as well, not working very smoothly though. Reasons: 1) I haven't played pub yet even though I've played against bots for quite a long time already (inclusive of the original DotA game). 2) Not all friends or acquaintances play that game. The second reason is not a reason if one stares hard enough. Thus, I've been reading up and practicing (in coop bot games) in order to have an enjoyable virgin pub game experience. Then I'll play together with my friends (who of course play pub) and hopefully bond closer.
Thoughts:
Before I started my DotA2 craze, I had been watching Japanese anime back from my childhood times. From the increased number of unpleasant experiences I witnessed or was part of since I left school, I was wondering why people can be so mean. After watching the first 2 seasons of Digimon, I uncovered the message which I have not received from the anime. (I didn't manage to catch every episode on TV when I was young.) There exists a balance of light and darkness. Good and evil are always present, in harmony. To expect a world full of light and goodness is akin to wishing for Utopia. I guess I just have to constantly improve myself in the light to fight against the darkness in myself and in my surroundings. As cliche as this may sound, good will triumph over evil, and I firmly believe in it. Another key take from the anime: to actively strive for the things I want in life. They'll not magically fall from the heavens, work is needed to achieve them. Life's too short to wait for things to happen, it's better to make things happen. =)
Writing this post with a groggy mind. Have been trying to pen this post the past few days, but put it off due to "exhaustion". Cause is playing too much DotA2 I guess, my new entertainment source, it lagging in almost every game notwithstanding. Shall replace my laptop at the end of this year, I think. Wanted it to be a connection platform with friends as well, not working very smoothly though. Reasons: 1) I haven't played pub yet even though I've played against bots for quite a long time already (inclusive of the original DotA game). 2) Not all friends or acquaintances play that game. The second reason is not a reason if one stares hard enough. Thus, I've been reading up and practicing (in coop bot games) in order to have an enjoyable virgin pub game experience. Then I'll play together with my friends (who of course play pub) and hopefully bond closer.
Thoughts:
Before I started my DotA2 craze, I had been watching Japanese anime back from my childhood times. From the increased number of unpleasant experiences I witnessed or was part of since I left school, I was wondering why people can be so mean. After watching the first 2 seasons of Digimon, I uncovered the message which I have not received from the anime. (I didn't manage to catch every episode on TV when I was young.) There exists a balance of light and darkness. Good and evil are always present, in harmony. To expect a world full of light and goodness is akin to wishing for Utopia. I guess I just have to constantly improve myself in the light to fight against the darkness in myself and in my surroundings. As cliche as this may sound, good will triumph over evil, and I firmly believe in it. Another key take from the anime: to actively strive for the things I want in life. They'll not magically fall from the heavens, work is needed to achieve them. Life's too short to wait for things to happen, it's better to make things happen. =)
Tuesday, January 1
2013, the year after the world supposedly ended
2012 was an extremely eventful year for me. A brief summary in the form of a timeline:
Dec 2011 - Mar 2012: PES B1 BMT (which I OOT-ed from)
Apr - Jun 2012: Supply Assistant (or just plain storeman) at Maju AMT (with a superior which subscribes strongly to McGregor's Managerial Theory X)
Jul 2012: Supply Assistant at Gombak Base HQ
Aug 2012: PES C9 BMT (recourse, it provided me with a guard duty experience to remember)
Sep - Nov 2012: Supply Assistant at Gombak Base HQ (RTU)
Dec 2012: Vocational Course at STC
2013 probably won't be as eventful as 2012, not in terms of NS commitments at least. I guess I should be glad about that, but I fear that I'll just be a wall clock watcher during work. That will happen, undoubtedly. Just serving my duties till the ORD, no passion whatsoever.
I gained lots more acquaintances during 2012. Friend count number (not the Facebook type) didn't really increase, if it did in the first place. The former due to me opening up and just speaking my mind to people around me (was that a goal for me in 2012? I reckon so), the latter due to characteristics and values not matching. To begin to build a new friendship, I read from the internet source that a requirement is for the acquaintances to encounter each other without planning at least a few times. I second it, from my own personal experience. Another source states that as one gets older, it's more difficult to construct new friendships with others. Two main reasons account for that: 1) number of commitments increases with age, and 2) values and beliefs are more deeply rooted as one grows older (hence, harder for one to get his views and opinions accepted and appreciated by another). Continued search for like-minded people to nurture new friendships with will be one of my main goals in 2013 (the main takeaway from NS, perhaps? Other than work experience... if it can be called this way). The hope that a "best" friend will emerge did not die away, but after reading another source on the internet (ok, I know I'm too free), I realised I have to treasure the people who are currently around me and enjoy their company rather than incessantly waiting for a perfect friend to appear. Life is too short for that. I go out with friends relatively frequent nowadays. Nevertheless, my hope stays etched in a corner of my mind, reminding me of itself once in a while...
Oh, and I have two more items to be checked into my New Year Resolution: 1) to be more daring, 2) to be able to use words more intelligently (no, not in the academic sense, but the social).
Dec 2011 - Mar 2012: PES B1 BMT (which I OOT-ed from)
Apr - Jun 2012: Supply Assistant (or just plain storeman) at Maju AMT (with a superior which subscribes strongly to McGregor's Managerial Theory X)
Jul 2012: Supply Assistant at Gombak Base HQ
Aug 2012: PES C9 BMT (recourse, it provided me with a guard duty experience to remember)
Sep - Nov 2012: Supply Assistant at Gombak Base HQ (RTU)
Dec 2012: Vocational Course at STC
2013 probably won't be as eventful as 2012, not in terms of NS commitments at least. I guess I should be glad about that, but I fear that I'll just be a wall clock watcher during work. That will happen, undoubtedly. Just serving my duties till the ORD, no passion whatsoever.
I gained lots more acquaintances during 2012. Friend count number (not the Facebook type) didn't really increase, if it did in the first place. The former due to me opening up and just speaking my mind to people around me (was that a goal for me in 2012? I reckon so), the latter due to characteristics and values not matching. To begin to build a new friendship, I read from the internet source that a requirement is for the acquaintances to encounter each other without planning at least a few times. I second it, from my own personal experience. Another source states that as one gets older, it's more difficult to construct new friendships with others. Two main reasons account for that: 1) number of commitments increases with age, and 2) values and beliefs are more deeply rooted as one grows older (hence, harder for one to get his views and opinions accepted and appreciated by another). Continued search for like-minded people to nurture new friendships with will be one of my main goals in 2013 (the main takeaway from NS, perhaps? Other than work experience... if it can be called this way). The hope that a "best" friend will emerge did not die away, but after reading another source on the internet (ok, I know I'm too free), I realised I have to treasure the people who are currently around me and enjoy their company rather than incessantly waiting for a perfect friend to appear. Life is too short for that. I go out with friends relatively frequent nowadays. Nevertheless, my hope stays etched in a corner of my mind, reminding me of itself once in a while...
Oh, and I have two more items to be checked into my New Year Resolution: 1) to be more daring, 2) to be able to use words more intelligently (no, not in the academic sense, but the social).
Monday, October 1
Journey into the Wild
I'll update my blog whenever I need some avenue to release my thoughts and emotions bottled up inside.
Had pretty much a hectic NS life since enlistment, I'm quite glad I'm settling down now in my unit. I had a few goals I wanted to achieve in NS I think, I can't remember exactly what they are and cannot be bothered to dig them out. At least I have a vague idea. The NS experience is enlightening if I may say as of now. So here goes the reasons.
I get to meet all sorts of people from my traditional exposure to people with good academic results. Money-minded people. Relationship freaks. Mind-your-own-business dudes. Guys with the mindset that a day is a day and life goes on... The list continues. To be honest, I am rather overwhelmed. There's definitely no one size fit all to give a good impression to all people. Hard reality? Yeah, at least for me. I guess I was a perfectionist. I still am in some ways. The above mentioned realisation made me just look for potential friends to chat with about any topic under the sun. Boosts my thinking and speaking skills. If I'm not wrong, I wanted to improve my communication skills by interacting with everyone. Not possible. Even suicidal. I'm not going to attempt to please everyone, which is the route I took before I veered back. Diversity of opinions on a wide range of topics can be enriching, after all it is sort of like a verbal Internet at camp where we chat when we're free, but only a select few stuff is useful to note.
Work and social life are two distinct entities too, I came to realise this. One guy can be a reliable work partner but not tactful in his comments to people. Another can be a charismatic person who skives. I have both types in my camp. I personally would prefer the first person to the second, because the second will most probably get by by putting on a puppet show. Oh, bother, I totally loathe those people. But well, I do know that a little bit of "concern" is needed at the right time, at the right place to the right person from time to time. From my few months consulting my peers, wayang is everywhere and inevitable. It is very versatile and powerful tool, especially if your target is more emotional based. There are a lot of these kind of people around who don't think straight. Previously, I was strongly opposed to bootlicking but since it's unavoidable and it works, and following the theory of adapting for survival, I compromised. Now, unknowingly, I take the extra effort to remind my superiors of things to do (related to my work), volunteer for (selective) work when bored and give suggestions and justifications for matters in the unit (of my interest). Seems very self-centred and pragmatic, isn't it? Well, I tried being a jack of all trades and a Mr Nice Guy, I ended up being abused instead with no thanks given. Again I was told that's how some society works -- you got to get in your head you can't treat your colleagues in the exact same way as you do to your friends. Of course getting connections in your workplace is helpful, another advice given, which I initially scorned off when I was disillusioned with people in my workplace after I was repeatedly made use of. Currently, I'm attempting to build my own workplace network to cushion myself, the search goes beyond my department whom I can't really click very well with. I'm just glad I have amiable relationships with all of them as my work ethics showed prominently. It's the only thing I can thank for when suddenly work starts coming my way because of 2 reasons: certain people start playing stunts and your superiors find that you are reliable. All the more the need to be "concerned" and to make known my "concerns" to protect myself (refer to the same para if you do not know what "concern" insinuates). I don't have much of a choice...
I must say my work life is still young. I've still a long way to go and a lot more to learn about the ways to survive work life. I'm just glad for the current friends I have who're still there. And to embrace some of my new found acquaintances which I made... while experimenting with my mediocre communication skills... tighter. Fine, my skills ain't that lousy if strangers are willing to take the first step to become acquaintances of mine. 430 more days... Yeah I started a countdown. Oh, and I got over my previous bouts dominating my previous posts --> the unexpressed link is there.
Thursday, November 17
Monday, October 10
?
Sometimes it's better just not to think too much or try too hard... and just let matters be.
As one opines "You should let X come to you instead." I think I finally realise the full significance of that sentence.
And I think I let myself run a little havoc again... Not entirely my fault, but I can only improve my side of the equation.
As cliche as it may sound "Only time will tell." Time's indeed the most valuable treasure in the world. Without it, nothing can be done. I hate leaving it to fate though, which ends up with me attempting too hard again. Stupid roundabout in my head, can't get nowhere. Depends on the other party, there's only so much that I can do. Takes two hand to clap, they say.
This sucks big time. Blehh ><
Tuesday, June 21
Belonging
I don't have enough time to study properly for blocks. I should be studying but I feel an urge to blog. In the past, I have a few urges to blog, but all were suppressed by the need to do other stuff. Care about mugging later. Will screw it up anyway judging from the amount of time left to cram a lot of info into my head.
When I was in primary school and lower sec, I didn't socialise or go out a lot. That's why my social skills and physical fitness sucks big time now. The free time that I had I spent mugging and watching television programmes. Being very easily influenced, the morals of all TV programmes I watched all entered me. My parents, even though not highly skilled or rich, had a decent set of morals too which they imparted to me in education. The emotional base of myself made the integration of these values a smooth one. From these, I totally detest any immoral and/or selfish behaviour which people in real life exhibit. There are several characters from all sorts of programme themes and settings which I look up to. That's the point of crafting the programmes anyway... other than making money, society wants to mould the next generation into desirable citizens.
I guess that's how I spent my childhood. Mainly watching TV shows. Haha, what a boring childhood. Nobody's childhood can win mine in terms of degree of boredom induced, except some extremist characters who are obsessed with work that is. I seriously (no cliche here) don't know whether I benefited from sitting in my TV screen for hours in days in weeks in months and in years. I do know that it gave me a set of glasses though, which the computer increased the thickness of the lens.
Going out of the house and virtual world of TV shows into the real society. It is cruel indeed. There are people with an assortment of characters. My ISFJ character didn't and still doesn't help me much in getting friends, because it doesn't help me in being sociable in the first place. Up till now I can't even find a person who's there for me to be willing to listen all the shit in me. Perhaps it's also the fault of the Singaporean society, turning us into machines - feeding us with tons of info and expecting us to modify it and contribute to the economy.
I can't express myself well nor my needs. I'm bound to be disadvantaged when there's things up for grabs. People successfully scramble for material benefits and interestingly, people to be their friends too. As time is limited, a person can only have a certain amount of friends to devote his/her time to. So, when everyone pairs up into groups and pairs and whatever not, I find myself having nobody that has time for me. In the past, that didn't bother me much, work and TV's enough. Now, due to my emotional need for support from others, I have to find myself a person... One can't survive without friends, let's face it, humans are not called social animals for nothing. From the start of my realisation, I have tried and tried but failed, by my standards. My friend tells me to not try so hard as it is an automatic process, 随缘而去。Makes perfect sense, but I really cannot survive without finding one.
I must say the heavens are kind enough to me for me to have found some friends whom I can interact with. I don't know if my expectations are too high, but my character needs that level of commitment. And so I crashed-course a lot, feeling angry and disappointed. I can feel people's effort, no matter how small. I can also sense all strengths of everybody. Those don't help me in achieving my aim. They only make me try to convince myself that this level if enough; it will suffice. But, unfortunately, they ain't enough. My friends who bother call me stupid from being easy on others and hard on myself.several a times. My parents tell me to fight for what I really want. Yeah, all makes sense... But, those morals tell me to be kind on others and I can't go against them. They tell me that people can feel your efforts and eventually appreciate you. 善有善报,恶有恶报,不是不报,时辰未到,时辰一到,一切都报。How long more do I have to wait... Perhaps those are lies.
Yet, I stubbornly believe in a good ending for those who persevere; 皇天不负有心人。When things didn't come naturally, I automatically switch to being selfish. I truly envy friends having fun with one another, the level of interaction, the smiles, the laughter, the mutual bonding... I'm 18, and I have a deep sucking void - a severe lack of good sociable memories... The jealousy from my character tries means and ways to pull a person to myself to feel this abyss of nothingness. It's equivalent to a black hole, sucking everything in no matter whether it's willing or not. The only appreciable difference is that I do selective sucking. I force myself upon those I target, and the emotions overwhelm both me and the people. When people cannot empathise, which is often, since it's forcing, I try harder and harder for them to understand me. Hasn't worked wonders. When people talk logic with me about my methods, I receive all of them, take them into account, and generate new ways to try and pull them closer again. It feels like a never-ending process, pull - fail - pull - fail - pull - fail. The only benefit I got from this is I can manage my emotions rather well already, thanks to a friend.
I still have not achieved my goal. I don't know where I belong. I try to be a perfect person, but I realised I cannot be near being perfect if my emotional well-being is being taken cared of first. And in the process, my attempts to be perfect and to fulfill my emotional well-being always clash time and again... Neither can I be completely selfish to protect my well-being at the cost of others nor can I be perfect and consider everyone's well-being, even at the cost of my own. And people say the process of friendship is natural... I recognise that but I can't stop myself from trying, because I tell myself that there's no harm trying right... All these morals and values I gained from watching TV programmes, but in the context of myself I somehow manage to make them contradict one another big time. Wow, cool. These contradictions are just the tip of the iceberg in my brain... there's always an epic battle inside my head. It doesn't help that I have a naturally dao face and tend not to socialise with those I don't know. I'm trying to change though...
And so, as I struggle to fulfill my emotional need, I continue to look upon people having fun, joy and laughter with their friends without trying 1% as hard as I do. The longing of wanting to be just like them is insatiable... I wonder if I can ever have the pleasure of being just like them - to have someone who will, on instinct, be there and care.
And so, as I struggle to fulfill my emotional need, I continue to look upon people having fun, joy and laughter with their friends without trying 1% as hard as I do. The longing of wanting to be just like them is insatiable... I wonder if I can ever have the pleasure of being just like them - to have someone who will, on instinct, be there and care.
Saturday, June 4
Review
H3 Exam was today. More difficult than the tests... Think I did Ok, but only average. Made the mistake which I frequently do: stoning too long at a question. That mistake has burned my grades before -- sometimes very badly. But this shouldn't be that bad... I hope. Anyway it's over now, don't know when the results will be out though... Not sure I want to see it.
And it's really true that 路遥知马力,日久见人心。Spare the time needed. If one is shagged, just a few days is enough to see a person's true character. After all, if you are extremely exhausted, you won't bother thinking much and do the first thing that comes into your mind, which is your innate instinct. A good time to look into anyone's strengths and weaknesses. Can be quite pleasing and revolting at times... How interesting are the various human natures... How some complement and others are at loggerheads. How some people are natural friends and others just don't get along at all.
As mentioned before, my character has altered vastly. Still adept at detecting emotions from almost everyone though. Therefore, I'll sympathise and tend not to crack down on people who just cannot make it. Not a master of logical decision-making. Definitely not skilled in naturally radiating care and concern. Shall work hard towards accomplishing these two. There're some people I encounter, regardless of whether they're real people or fictitious characters, whom I really admire. Doggedly striving towards being a better person, one of the many goals aligned with the commitments I have.
And it's really true that 路遥知马力,日久见人心。Spare the time needed. If one is shagged, just a few days is enough to see a person's true character. After all, if you are extremely exhausted, you won't bother thinking much and do the first thing that comes into your mind, which is your innate instinct. A good time to look into anyone's strengths and weaknesses. Can be quite pleasing and revolting at times... How interesting are the various human natures... How some complement and others are at loggerheads. How some people are natural friends and others just don't get along at all.
As mentioned before, my character has altered vastly. Still adept at detecting emotions from almost everyone though. Therefore, I'll sympathise and tend not to crack down on people who just cannot make it. Not a master of logical decision-making. Definitely not skilled in naturally radiating care and concern. Shall work hard towards accomplishing these two. There're some people I encounter, regardless of whether they're real people or fictitious characters, whom I really admire. Doggedly striving towards being a better person, one of the many goals aligned with the commitments I have.
Saturday, February 19
No emotion can describe this void full of emotions
Getting closer than close is really a great feat. That's probably why couples bicker ever so often, but this is also probably a false analogy...
Process:
Strangers meet --> Common topic --> Acquaintances --> Shared common experiences (both bad and good) --> Friends --> Common beliefs / characters --> Buddies --> Accept and appreciate differences --> Brothers
The last stage is the most difficult to achieve. Even once it's reached, more and more will be revealed, with challenges of differences in time and space thrown in. Individual stages are reversible.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Indeed. Applies for relationship hiccups and overhauls.
Currently going through a change. Suggested and initiated by my upper sec friend. Character change for highly introvert to an extrovert. Not easy. Having unstable intermediates and transition states. Still leaning towards the introvert though. Situations where I tend towards an extrovert character have uncomfortable encounters (尴尬、 冷场) where I do not really know how to reply. Hope to reach the other end pretty soon. The intermediates and transition states can incur rather high opportunity costs, explained actions and words. Like yesterday. Blehhh, it sucks to the core. Still guilt-stricken.
As life goes on and social well being alters,
If someone takes you for granted:
+: You're so integrated into his life that you're essentially a part of him and his daily routine.
-: Your views will be undermined. Your feelings will not be cared for as much.
Ideal situation: Perfectly Reciprocal Relationship
Doesn't exist, but no harm working towards it with friends. =)
Process:
Strangers meet --> Common topic --> Acquaintances --> Shared common experiences (both bad and good) --> Friends --> Common beliefs / characters --> Buddies --> Accept and appreciate differences --> Brothers
The last stage is the most difficult to achieve. Even once it's reached, more and more will be revealed, with challenges of differences in time and space thrown in. Individual stages are reversible.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Indeed. Applies for relationship hiccups and overhauls.
Currently going through a change. Suggested and initiated by my upper sec friend. Character change for highly introvert to an extrovert. Not easy. Having unstable intermediates and transition states. Still leaning towards the introvert though. Situations where I tend towards an extrovert character have uncomfortable encounters (尴尬、 冷场) where I do not really know how to reply. Hope to reach the other end pretty soon. The intermediates and transition states can incur rather high opportunity costs, explained actions and words. Like yesterday. Blehhh, it sucks to the core. Still guilt-stricken.
As life goes on and social well being alters,
If someone takes you for granted:
+: You're so integrated into his life that you're essentially a part of him and his daily routine.
-: Your views will be undermined. Your feelings will not be cared for as much.
Ideal situation: Perfectly Reciprocal Relationship
Doesn't exist, but no harm working towards it with friends. =)
Monday, February 14
Finding purpose
Process has been well.
Just that I'm still not producing on the PPC...
Realised I can use the Principle of Comparative Advantage to increase my overall welfare. o.0
Trade specialties. Oh yes, in academics. It's an appealing option that's open. So why not?
Need to increase my productive efficiency. To be more competitive. To be able to reap economies of scale. Wait a minute... from where? Never mind the source, I just need to be able to complete things with precision and accuracy.
And the process continues... It will never end. The bar will ever be set higher (by myself), but I do know the limits and the checkpoints (by comparing with others).
Two points I want to record down here. They have no link whatsoever.
1) I realise I get annoyed when people assume I did nothing when I did (and devoted more in time and effort) just because they did not see me do anything. Anybody will actually.
2) The closer a friend (or brother), the more support one receives. The better one becomes in deflecting any shit that life throws your way too. Good for tiding through hard times in school. I understand what's moral support now. Didn't in the past. BOO... (N)
Sunday, January 30
J2 Life
Almost a month since I blogged...
J2 life is rather routine and boring. Since the start of school, I have always reached home after sunset. Wake up --> Go school --> Listen in lessons (while trying my best to pay full attention, albeit dozing off at times) --> Attend after school activities --> Go home --> Do the ever increasing pile of homework and revise what's been taught --> Sleep
And the cycle repeats itself... Will continue to do so until the end of A levels... (Of course it will intensify first) In spite of this mundane routine, I think I make better use of time this year than the previous...
After school activities are mostly NPCC and NTU H3, each of which takes up 2 days in a school week. Both of which I rather enjoy actually, so they are not much of a problem. Probably why I can survive in my routine. But well, some people have much busier routines than I have, and they have been staying strong... I guess.
Once again, I realise I have an affinity towards juniors and near none towards girls... Not much of an issue... as of yet. The current batch functions differently. Being away from the norm does not matter, as long as it works.
Emotion and logic. Emotions still predominantly rules my brain. Logic is not completely left out though. Will continue in this way.
I have to bulk up!!! Argh... Must literally FORCE myself. I'm weak yeah... Finding motivation in progress...
Have been "..." for many of my sentences... Describes how "..." I am now... The feeling has been the same... Will it change?
Wednesday, January 5
MMXI
New Year's Resolution: 2011 another year, and the last year before the world ends... ._."
5th of Jan, 4-5 days late in posting...
Unit Chalet was fun and a success. First time so many official documents were created, that there was so much planning and attention to detail. A first for planned unit and squad activity. At least as far the archives didn't have much... Grand achievement and "revolution" for the OT. Good job. I surely enjoyed myself, though not with the group I was supposed to be with (by convention).
J2. No time to think much already. Can't let my mind wonder about relations, people like in the recent past and take away my attention from where it rightfully belongs: academics. I'll probably often feel what I'm experiencing right now. A tad bit tired. Not feeling like doing anything and wondering. "What's my purpose in what I'm doing... What's my aim in life?" Just keep moving and doing what I should. Emotions are powerful tools, but I can't overwhelm myself with it anymore. Enough of it already.
Very interesting how humans work, how the mind and heart works in synchrony. Can predict how some people will react to situations accurately. Many occasions proved the point (to myself). Nice achievement for me, was that a goal last year? Never mind, too lazy to review my posts. My goal this year compared to the previous years' is utterly different. All in all, this skill's still very handy for me.
Social life, the emphasis of last year... can't really say it totally failed or succeeded. Macro, class - fail; CCA - success? Micro, bf - fail; brother - success? Funny, those planned goals failed, the improvised ones faired relatively better.
There's no need to specially go out and try to manipulate relations. Comes naturally with all the other aspects of life. Put in effort, people can feel. Constant effort is enough. No need go out of the way. Go out of the way is unnatural and will most probably not succeed anyway.
NYR: 看开 Seems, simple, but it won't be easy, that's for sure.
5th of Jan, 4-5 days late in posting...
Unit Chalet was fun and a success. First time so many official documents were created, that there was so much planning and attention to detail. A first for planned unit and squad activity. At least as far the archives didn't have much... Grand achievement and "revolution" for the OT. Good job. I surely enjoyed myself, though not with the group I was supposed to be with (by convention).
J2. No time to think much already. Can't let my mind wonder about relations, people like in the recent past and take away my attention from where it rightfully belongs: academics. I'll probably often feel what I'm experiencing right now. A tad bit tired. Not feeling like doing anything and wondering. "What's my purpose in what I'm doing... What's my aim in life?" Just keep moving and doing what I should. Emotions are powerful tools, but I can't overwhelm myself with it anymore. Enough of it already.
Very interesting how humans work, how the mind and heart works in synchrony. Can predict how some people will react to situations accurately. Many occasions proved the point (to myself). Nice achievement for me, was that a goal last year? Never mind, too lazy to review my posts. My goal this year compared to the previous years' is utterly different. All in all, this skill's still very handy for me.
Social life, the emphasis of last year... can't really say it totally failed or succeeded. Macro, class - fail; CCA - success? Micro, bf - fail; brother - success? Funny, those planned goals failed, the improvised ones faired relatively better.
There's no need to specially go out and try to manipulate relations. Comes naturally with all the other aspects of life. Put in effort, people can feel. Constant effort is enough. No need go out of the way. Go out of the way is unnatural and will most probably not succeed anyway.
NYR: 看开 Seems, simple, but it won't be easy, that's for sure.
Friday, December 17
The start
Reality.
Seen a glimpse of the society today.
Just a small window.
But it's the first ever time I'm exposed fully.
No more being a kid in thoughts.
Complete responsibility and accountability felt.
Being a sandwich is horrid to the max.
Proposition - Opposition
Superiors - Subordinates
Oh, the divine balance.
I'm still mostly for the people.
Learning's a lifelong process indeed.
I hope there're willing people who will let me take refuge now and then.
I hope there're willing people who will let me take refuge now and then.
Wednesday, December 1
New Outlook on Life
The inhumane lies have been exposed.
The many covers of reassurance of oneself broke down.
A year of deceit shrouded in fog has gone.
What happens next?
Stay true and move on.
It's that simple.
Living in the unalterable past is futile.
The future is still there to craft.
Relations need not be put in words.
Mutual interactions strengthen bonds undoubtedly.
Time spent together cannot be measured with gold.
But, is it too much to ask for confirmation?
Loneliness is the reason.
Wise is my friend to pick it out.
Concern and help are kindly offered.
After all, he has walked the same road before.
Close friends all spread around.
None know another well.
No siblings to call my own.
Only the cold laptop accompanies me every day and night.
Be more E than I, was the advice.
Right, I thought.
Can't keep on wondering about achievements in social life.
I'll help myself, I'll change.
Support from friends is required.
I literally lust after it.
Best Friend, Confidante? Even a Life Partner.
Fate will bestow them naturally.
Without the lies, I will not have a dear brother.
It must be predestined.
A gargantuan blessing it has always been in disguise.
For experience, for accompaniment, for life.
Tuesday, November 23
Vengeance
People who take revenge immediately are definitely less scary than those who strike after a period of time, because the former forgets but the latter remembers after the event.
1) They plan. 君子报仇,十年不晚。
2) Psychological assaults taken from other(s) over a period of time will be released heavily as one shot when the time is right. 卧薪尝胆
Generally the longer the period of psychological hurt, the heavier the impact of the retaliation.
To continue 睁一只眼,闭一只眼 and be nice or not? After all, 水能载舟,亦能覆舟。Once I reach the limit, anything happens. Even though it isn't often, but those who bore the full brunt didn't dare to try again.
I still believe in 善有善报,恶有恶报,不是不报,时辰未到,时辰一到,一切都报 though.
1) They plan. 君子报仇,十年不晚。
2) Psychological assaults taken from other(s) over a period of time will be released heavily as one shot when the time is right. 卧薪尝胆
Generally the longer the period of psychological hurt, the heavier the impact of the retaliation.
To continue 睁一只眼,闭一只眼 and be nice or not? After all, 水能载舟,亦能覆舟。Once I reach the limit, anything happens. Even though it isn't often, but those who bore the full brunt didn't dare to try again.
I still believe in 善有善报,恶有恶报,不是不报,时辰未到,时辰一到,一切都报 though.
Friday, November 19
Order in a whirl
Constant work even in the holidays. Feeling tired. Seriously. But have to keep going.
And I will.
Now's the start of the real challenge. Now I understand why they asked "What's your motivation?" If it isn't clear, I can never carry on. I can see now.
Oh no I'm not giving up. Far from it.
For myself. For the unit. For the juniors. In no order particular. I will continue.
To achieve. To lead. To inspire. And I will do it my way.
That's the way. I love it. =D
And I will.
Now's the start of the real challenge. Now I understand why they asked "What's your motivation?" If it isn't clear, I can never carry on. I can see now.
Oh no I'm not giving up. Far from it.
For myself. For the unit. For the juniors. In no order particular. I will continue.
To achieve. To lead. To inspire. And I will do it my way.
That's the way. I love it. =D
Saturday, October 30
Back to normal
It feels good to be back to normal. To think the formula is just be myself. Acting isn't my forte. Brings forth uncertainty. I agree. Haven't brought out much good by trying to be some one that isn't me. And of course others surely find out. Didn't know what I had to do previously, so conformed to the norm. I followed what the picture in my head was, gathered over the years. A Gargantuan mistake. Definitely.
I was thoroughly relieved after the open-up talk. I was waiting for it. And even though it wasn't nice at all, far from nice, I appreciated it. At least I know my strengths now. In the past, I only know my looming number of weaknesses, but never could put together words to describe my strengths. For the first time, I had people voicing out my strengths and explaining how I could use them. The recipe is just to be myself. It's that simple. I couldn't really believe it. To blend in and complement, I just need to be natural. Sounds too easy, but makes sense. One can only succeed if he is himself. Trying to be different from yourself will inevitably fall flat on your face. Though I can't guarantee that I'll definitely fit into the existing styles, there's a high chance I can. I will try hard. To do my best to be myself and contribute. =)
I was thoroughly relieved after the open-up talk. I was waiting for it. And even though it wasn't nice at all, far from nice, I appreciated it. At least I know my strengths now. In the past, I only know my looming number of weaknesses, but never could put together words to describe my strengths. For the first time, I had people voicing out my strengths and explaining how I could use them. The recipe is just to be myself. It's that simple. I couldn't really believe it. To blend in and complement, I just need to be natural. Sounds too easy, but makes sense. One can only succeed if he is himself. Trying to be different from yourself will inevitably fall flat on your face. Though I can't guarantee that I'll definitely fit into the existing styles, there's a high chance I can. I will try hard. To do my best to be myself and contribute. =)
Friday, October 15
Role of friends
Didn't think of posting another blog post.
However, felt strongly for some article I read,
Especially a quote:
"A good friend is like a computer. I Enter in your life, Save you in my heart, Format your problems, Shift you to opportunities and never Delete you from my memory."
From
Mr Masagos Zulkifli
Senior Parliamentary Secretary
Ministry of Education
Chairman
Health Youth Committee (HY-Com)
Message delivered on World Mental Health Day, 10th October 2010
Last accessed 15th October 2010
That's to all my friends. =)
However, felt strongly for some article I read,
Especially a quote:
"A good friend is like a computer. I Enter in your life, Save you in my heart, Format your problems, Shift you to opportunities and never Delete you from my memory."
From
Mr Masagos Zulkifli
Senior Parliamentary Secretary
Ministry of Education
Chairman
Health Youth Committee (HY-Com)
Message delivered on World Mental Health Day, 10th October 2010
Last accessed 15th October 2010
That's to all my friends. =)
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